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Gratitude – An access card to the world of success

A very important question that we need to ponder around is: ‘Does happiness cause one to be grateful or does being grateful create happiness?’. Well this is debatable in various levels and what we need to understand is that gratitude is the key factor that leads to success, satisfaction and overall happiness. It is generally believed that one can be grateful only when they have achieved and reached their goals. However, every phase towards reaching a goal has reasons and situations that one needs to be grateful for being stepping stones towards desired goals.

Research in the field of positive psychology has repeatedly demonstrated the benefits of gratitude to increase happiness which in turn increases work performance and goal success rates.

As stated by Charles Dickens, “Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, oh which all men have some.” Every one in the phase of learning and achieving big dreams is filled with levels of challenges and setback that tests one’s abilities, strength and perseverance. This is where one’s mindset, outlook and level of gratitude comes into role on their general satisfaction and happiness.

Gratitude- Success Cycle shows how gratitude leads to success. It is a never ending process to stay satisfied with one’s achievements and simultaneously keep learning and evolving.

To naturally display gratitude we need to consciously practice the skill. Some ways to imbibe this skill as a habit could include: writing a journal about all the things that went well on a daily basis that lead to a new step towards desired goal. Like any other skill, expression of gratitude begins with taking conscious actions which become stronger over time and eventually becomes an effortless habit.

Gratitude is also a step towards real time goal-setting. People who practice writing and maintaining gratitude journals are more likely to set and successfully achieve personal and professional goals. Practicing gratitude helps to enhance and improve perseverance and resilience which is a necessity to achieve higher goals. Introspecting on a daily basis the things one is grateful for provides space to reflect on what has been accomplished and what more needs to be achieved. Gratitude also helps in celebrating success. Recognition of success should come from a genuine place of appreciation.

To conclude, let’s keep in mind that gratitude not only helps use reach and celebrate success but also improve interpersonal skills and mutually give and receive respect. As Dr. Abdul Kalam quoted, “In life no one will remember how you looked, walked, talked or what you did. Everyone just remembers you by the way you made them feel when they were with you.

Characteristics of an Effective Manager

A good manager is like a captain who steers the ship, without whom the crew (employees/ staff) and passengers (clients, costumers) are at risk of sinking. It has been observed and proved through time that a company’s success is run by the effectiveness of it’s employees and the employees’ success, by their managers.

To be an effective manager does not mean doing everything by oneself. It is rather about enabling one’s team to grow and perform better—and more importantly enjoy what they’re doing with as much passion as their manager.

The below picture illustrates Top characteristics of an effective manager:

To summarize, being an ideal manager is to become a great leader who recognizes and appreciates the efforts of their team, continuously learns and encourages learning, enhances emotional intelligence of self and team and tackles and resolves conflicts and challenges.

A to Z of Success

There are many different steps and paths for how to be successful in life, work or whatever one aims to do but the best strategy that works best for an individual depends on one’s perception of success itself. Irrespective of how one dreams of their success, there are certain traits, quality and nature that will help in reaching the dream success. The below self explanatory A to Z list of these factors aims at inspiring learners towards success.

Created by Mridula Murthy
© Inspiring Learners

To conclude, defining success should be the first step on one’s journey towards achieving it. Success is personal, subjective and exceptionally achievable!

A clean surrounding; A clear mind

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For a clear and healthy mind it is important for your surroundings to be clean and hygienic. A number of research findings suggest that environmental cleanliness plays a key role in mental health and wellbeing. A clean environment not only means a hygienic environment without pollution but also indicates one’s own lifestyle.  An organized and tidy space at home and work would lead a mind a positive and growth mode even when one fails to achieve set goal leading to significant enhancement self-confidence when compared to an individual living in a cluttered environment.

People who have trouble with clutter often:

  1. Struggle with managing time and leave tasks incomplete 
  2. Have ‘starting troubles’ in case of challenging tasks and changes  
  3. Are easily distracted and lack focus and motivation
  4. Spend a lot of time doing things with others and demotivated to work individually
  5. Have tendencies of procrastination

Negative Impact of clutter and mess on the mind:

Research evidences prove that disorganized surroundings tend to impact human mind in an unhealthy way, making it challenging the mind to be organized and prioritize multiple tasks. This would lead an individual to low self-esteem and feeling of low sense of accomplishment.

  • Clutter leads to depression and fatigue: A lot of times we may have experienced feeling low and confused about certain feelings and thoughts. Research indicate that people who describe their homes and work spaces to be messy and disorganized have more tendency to be depressed and fatigued when compared to those who have been observed to be organized and neat with keeping/ arranging their belongings  
  • Clutter leads to confusion and lack of focus: No matter how clean and green the environment is around one’s house/ office if one fails to keep their surroundings (inside their home/work space) clean having clutter everywhere, the individual may not have a clear and focused mind. Clutter and mess create more anxiety, stress and confusion but by cleaning, organizing, and clearing the physical clutter, one will be able to take control of their environment both externally and internally and create a more relaxed surrounding that enables them to be better focused on issues and priorities at work and life.

Benefits of Cleaning and Decluttering on the mind: 

Research has found that cleaning and being organized have showed significant positive effects on mental wellbeing. For instance, it helps in attaining a sense of control over environment and engage oneself mentally in positive activities that can have a constructive effect on the mind. 

  • Cleaning Leads to better Physical Health: Research suggest that people exposed to cleaner houses and surroundings tend to be healthier than those with messy or cluttered environment. Clean and decluttered surroundings can lower the risks of asthma and allergies leading to a heathy lifestyle that follows a healthy state of mind. 
  • Gain Control on your inner environment: Mental health researchers have found that in times of high fatigues, trauma and stress, people tend to exhibit cleaning and organizing as a part of their natural coping instincts because it gives them a sense of control during a challenging time.
  • Better relationships (with self and others): Conflict often occurs when one can’t control one’s own environment causing confusion and disorganization in thoughts and feelings. Once the external surroundings are organized, it gives way for inner thoughts and feelings to be sorted, making the individual open to let go of negativity and forgive (self and others) reducing inter and intra personal conflicts.

Tips Cleaning and Decluttering: 

Mind-map Created by Mridula Murthy

There could be times when one may still find it hard to stay focused and motivated despite trying to tidy up and get organized. In those cases one may need to have other techniques and tools that can help in destressing and unwinding which could include seeking professional help.

Hoping that this write-up has been successful in lifting your mood to start with a small step toward organizing and cleaning your physical and inner environment!

Corona on Our Minds

Corona On Our Minds

First thing we read about in the morning these days or hear about from friends and family, is about the fast spreading viral disease; the COVID -19… be it in the form of news, memes or/and random health tips and remedies on social media. This is causing stress and anxiety in all of us in many ways, both personally and professionally.

This is a global situation and is the best time to see ourselves as citizens of the earth rather than our continents / countries / cities. There is STRESS calling out from every part of the world.  The multiple changes in lifestyle, due to the fast spreading disease, are creating huge confusion in most of us causing a sense of uncertainty in our minds about various things like our health, the health of our near and dear ones, our ability to cope and handle changes on personal and work front, fear of losing jobs, children’s schooling (online classes) and many more. These uncertainties are causing enormous anxiety in human arousing panic across the globe.

We have a lot of tips on how to stay physically healthy. On the other hand in this crisis it is equally important to take good care of our psychological / mental well-being. Coping with the anxieties related to the pandemics is crucial and challenging and could be an important aspect to focus on. A few ways that could help us cope are:

  1. Focus on things one can Control: The first thing we can control is our own health. We can evaluate our physical health, check for symptoms and take precautions as per parameters and norms set by WHO and country government; behave responsibly and stay at home and help stop spreading the virus; Control frequency of checking news related to COVID-19: Always remember, the size of news coverage need not be same as actual issue and always know to believe and follow reputable sources and not fall prey to rumors and fake news that causes panic.
  2. Keep the larger picture in mind: This is a global issue: we as individuals are not alone. We can together work ways and motivate one another to overcome and stop the spread. Instead of worrying about new online classes for kids or taking an online training session from work for the first time, let us feel motivated that we have an opportunity for learning new techniques of working, training and academics. It’s always a good thing to learn new methodologies and appreciate technological advancement. 🙂
  3. Focus on thought processes: Most of the places in the world have taken extreme actions of locking down the whole country. Be home, be safe. This means: no entertainment, no outdoors games, no shopping… here comes the need to focus on where our thoughts are flowing. Make sure your thought processes are positive. Keep your self and your mind busy always to avoid negative thoughts and low feeling, an idle mind is a devil’s workshop. A few ways we could keep ourselves positive could be by: Reading positive stories; Revisiting our hobbies that didn’t get time during busy schedules; Watch positive- comedy movies; Talk to friends and family and spend time with people who live with us at home. This way we can be happy and keep others happy too.
  4. Don’t let fear influence decisions: Reading a lot of negative news can induce fear which results in decisions like panic shopping and over stalking of necessary products that might be useful for everyone. This way we might be depriving the needy from the precautionary products hence spreading the illness and global panic even more. God forbid but if we fall sick and are advised to quarantine ourselves, let’s take it as an opportunity to take rest and rejuvenate instead of letting our fear control our decision to escape isolation and run around. This way we will not only be straining ourselves but also be putting 1000s of fellow humans into trouble. Another decisions we need to be careful of making is travelling to our home country if we are abroad: Please remember, even if our loved ones are not with us, both us and them will be much safer being where we are than traveling and risking the chances of being affected. It’s always wiser to calmly and logically think and make decisions.
  5. Virtual Socializing: Social distancing… means being restricted from social activities and avoiding gatherings and parties. This can be really challenging, specially for those who love being around with people. The sudden restrictions can lead to feeling low and gloomy. Well, we can still party! A virtual party, by inviting cousins/ friends/ family for a drink/ hi-tea/ lunch on WhatsApp/ Skype group video call and talk, sing and even dance our hearts out together!!
  6. Spread positivity: Now that we get so much time indoors, there is a lot we can do on social media such as upload personal videos and photos Instagram / Facebook showing how you are spending quality time at home/ with families. Learn, execute and share creative DIY crafts;  or share information that spreads positivity and motivates people to take responsible participation in contributing towards fighting this battle. This way we would be modelling peaceful behavior and giving hope to the world about the positive sides of the situation.

With these few tips on coping with the current crises, we can also learn and take forward the positive changes in life styles during this crisis for a much happier future ahead. Let us hope and pray that we will soon win this battle with these tiny invisible creatures and wish speedy recovery for all those who are infected and affected by the virus.