Finding True Happiness

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” 
― Mahatma Gandhi

Abraham Lincoln quoted “Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” which throws light on the fact that happiness is a state of mind and one can be happy when he/she makes up their mind. There ware many ways one can find true happiness within themselves some of them are highlighted below:

First of all, one needs to be aware that the concept of happiness is subjective and differs from individual to individual. Once one is aware of  this, one can understand and be able to express what happiness means to them, and go ahead and achieve their happiness.

Although it’s subjective, there are certain common ways that can help one attain their happiness, irrespective of one’s subjective definition of happiness. One of such universals approaches to reach a happiness is to appreciate and find pleasure in the littlest and smallest things. This can be done when one does not have high expectations about self or others.

Another way to find a ‘short cut’ to reach one’s happiness is to make time for activities which help stay healthy and fit (physically, mentally/ emotionally and socially) … these could include activities of one’s own interest and that one enjoys such as sports, gym, creative hobbies, socializing activities with friends/ family etc.

Being surrounded by people/ things which make one happy is also a good way to attain an inner path to happiness. Although one’s surrounding does play a role on the way they feel and perceive things, one should make sure not to completely rely on others / external sources for their personal happiness. As mentioned earlier already, true happiness comes from within an individual.

It would be important to keep in mind that ‘it’s okay to be you’… One needs to learn and feel comfortable being oneself. One cannot be happy pretending to be someone else. A quote by Mahatma Gandhi stated “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”… This focuses on one being clear and open about their intentions and actions, (which can be done being oneself). This way, one need not suffer any kind of guilt or fear of being caught or exposed and are generally happy in nature.

Positive self-affirmations would also help pump in happiness in individuals. This would bring in optimistic approach without any stress in one who is aiming the perform his/her best (professionally and personally). This would lead one to be a generally happy person. Talking about giving one’s best performance, another positive approach to make it a happy and stress-free process is comparing one with oneself instead of others. Seeing growth and development within one’s own self will always bring inner happiness and satisfaction.

Openly expressing gratitude towards people and things that have helped and supported one to achieve would also add on to the general inner happiness of a person. This act would not only make one individual happy but also spread happiness and positivity which is another way to increase happiness within oneself.

It’s always necessary to accept changes in life. Of course some changes that occur in life would pull one’s mood down, however it should not stop one from being a happy person for a long time if one always hopes and expects the best and at the same time be prepared for the worse.

Quoting Dalai Lama XIV,  “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”… meaning, once one makes sure he/she does’t hurt oneself or others, through their actions, there will be more room to happiness and our world will be more beautiful to live!! Finally, it can be concluded keeping in mind Max Ehrmann’s  quote “With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.” 🙂

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Forgiving: A Strength; A Therapy

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We all face certain mental blocks and fears to try new things, specially in areas where we have faced embarrassment or disappointment earlier. The reason behind the block is not the embarrassment it self, but the bad feeling or anger on the situation or the person responsible for the embarrassment (Could be either oneself or some other person). One of a mature ways to get rid of the hesitation or block would be to forgive the situation or person we perceive is responsible for the earlier unpleasant experience.

Forgiving is, as all of us perceive a challenging action. One might say “it’s easier said than done” but conquering this challenging job could release one from mental blocks and many other negative thoughts and feelings and enhance positiveness in one’s mind. A positive mindset is after all to key to success – both personal and professional.

When we forgive others, it also gives us the space and opportunity to identify and acknowledge our own flaws and weaknesses and gives us a path to accept and rectify them. Forgiving is an act of a strong person as it’s more challenging to forgive when one is hurt rather than staying angry on the other person/ situation – as Mahatma Gandhi quotes “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

Taking an instance, A teacher from high school comments on a student’s scores and presentation skills. As the student grows up (s)he gets a mental block to take up any competitive exam or deliver presentations. The reason behind the hesitation is the grudge (s)he is carrying on the teachers words. The best way for her/him to overcome the block is to let go of the feeling of embarrassment and forgive the teacher. This way (s)he gets a space to identify her own strengths and areas of improvement and move towards learning and developing.

In the above instance, how does one forgive someone who is still not in touch?

Forgiving need not be directly going to the person and saying “I forgive you”! Sometimes the other person would not be aware that they have hurt us. What one can do is, think of the person, what he/she told, the situation, and one’s feeling in that situation and mentally let go of the feeling and say to the person in the mind, “you may have knowingly or unknowingly hurt me! I forgive you and move on”! This activity might take few repeats till one feels they have finally let go of the feelings and ready to break through the challenge of facing exams and presentations without hesitation (referring to the instance)

Another way of forgiving would be, directly going and talking to the person (if he/she is available) and clearing it all out with them and finally forgiving. Another way could be writing down in the diary / personal journal about the person, situation, and one’s feeling.

Here one could also add the perceived reason behind the feeling, alternative reasons behind the other person’s actions, and the changed feeling considering the alternative reason. – Taking the above instance, the teacher could have commented keeping in mind encouragement for the student to pull up his/her socks and perform better rather than putting the student’s confidence down. Considering this reason behind the teacher’s comments, the feeling could be changed and written as “motivated” “need to improve and grow”… which will help one in breaking through the ice and coming up the ladder.

There could be any situation, person causing mental blocks in people and using these techniques of forgiving would help as a therapy for overcoming and liberating oneself from fears and blocks and come across as a more free and positive person!

To conclude, let’s all keep in mind this quote of Martin Luther King Jr, “We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid the power to forgive is devoid the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover it, we are less prone to hate our enemies”. He also quotes “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that!”- and that spreads mental freedom and positive mindset!

Storytelling – An Effective Learning Method

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All of us have fond memories of being told stories in our childhood in order to learn morels and values. Some stories motivated us to try better when we failed to achieve and to stay humble when we did achieve while some others told us about the mistakes committed by our kings and ancestors and their consequences. These stores, be it true time stories or fictitious, have played a role in our lives in the process of learning ways of living and behaving. Some of them also have impacted our learning of concepts and theories. For instance – we remember Newton’s Theory of Gravity through the story of the apple falling and Aristotle’s theory through the famous “Eureka” story.

Stories are one of the forms of communication that bring in a personalized touch to the  learners. This form can be used by teachers, trainers and learners themselves to inculcate ownership of subject/ concept. Storytelling in the context of training and learning does not mean an elaborate fairy-tale starting with “once upon a time…” and ending with “…happily ever after”. Being able to relating to stories that are commonly known to understand/ apply a concept or to create stories that can make application of concepts easier is a vital role of storytelling in the world of learning.

It can be kept in mind that the climax of the story should be able to provide opportunity for the learners to relate themselves as a hero of their own stories in similar situation. Situation based teaching and learning methods such as role plays, case studies or even inviting renowned people in the study field to share the stories of their journey could play a role in enhancing teaching-learning processes and enable learners to think and apply what they are learning in a more effective way.

 

 

 

Learn from Hobbies

There are lots of hobbies that we all possess and lot of things we learn from each of the hobbies.

This article features a few of the hobbies and the life lessons we can learn from them.

Firstly, let’s consider Painting – Painting teaches us that some times accidents and mistakes can add unexpected beauty to life. However it also teaches us to aim at inticrate perfection and in case of getting stuck in a place, step back and take a break, rather than messing things up. Every phase of life is beautiful, and painting teaches us to enjoy and value each moment of the experience. Life comes with many shades and colours and painting teaches us to keep going with the flow and appreciate strokes. Another thing that we learn from painting is making something out of nothing, it’s in our hands to convert a plane white canvas into a colourful master piece by taking risks and experimenting with colourful experiences. One’s experiences might not be fascinating to everybody just like how not all types of paintings are appropriated by all. By this we learn that one can’t impress everyone.

Then let us talk about Dancing – Dance is a beautiful form of hobby which involves expression, setting goals, determination, team work, self confidence, posture, flexibility/ moving out of comfort zones, time management, practice makes perfect, rising after a fall. These are some of the most important qualities one must possess to grow and develop in both personal and professional life.

Dramatics teaches us many important aspects of life such as letting go of ego. One needs to be humble enough to take roles of characters who might be totally different from their real self for which they need to let go of their egos. Living a characters role also teaches us the skill of standing in somebody else’s shoe and teaches us to understand human emotions and behaviour. Through acting skills, one also learns the key aspects of maintaining relationships ie knowing the difference between reaction and response, active listening, breaking ice between two different individuals, interpersonal skills, communication skills, self confidence and appreciating others’ feelings and points of view.

Another creative hobby includes clay modelling. One most important thing we learn from this hobby is that dirtying hands sometimes lead to creating beautiful things. While making the model, be it of a put or a doll or an idol of god, balance is critical. This teaches us that even in life balancing between different aspects is very important. Experimenting with new models teaches us try out new things and to take risks. The hobby also teaches us the importance of perfection in little things which needs concentration, determination, constant trying and practice. Overall the form of art helps training ourselves in Moulding life and making decisions, creativity and innovation and appreciation of environment.

Another beautiful form of art that people enjoy is Singing/ Music. One of the biggest learnings that we got from it is not to expect instant gratification. New forms of music, new musicians are not always immediately accepted and appreciated. Some other learning we get from music (and any kind of art/hobby) is to appropriate others’ work, challenging oneself and keeping an open mind. When things get tough take a deep breath and move on at the same time it is important to keep in mind time management as you would mess it up if you skip a beat in the song and so in life. Most important thing to keep in mind are to believe in self and remember that you are your toughest critic and self reflection is an essential aspect learning.

There are many more hobbies and many more things that can be learnt through them. One most common one is to step out of comfort zone and going beyond one’s experienced areas.

Please feel free to leave a comment and share your experiences and learnings from your hobbies!

Life lessons from learning a new language

In the process of learning the language where the pronunciation and way of spelling words are so different from English, there are a lot more than just the language that we learn.

Some of the major lessons that I feel that learning a language can teach us are:

1. Master the basics first

To master in any learning, a strong foundation of the basics of the subject is very important. That is one thing that we do the best when we’re learning a new language. We automatically go in for understand basics such as the alphabets, numbers, the pronunciations, basic greetings like hello, hi, how are you etc. and then slowly go in for the further intricacies in the language. The same patience to learn step by step can be applied in learning other things as well where we generally tend to hurry the learning process

2. Sincere practice makes perfect

It applies the most in learning a language and also obvious in the process of learning in general… practice as a part of learning process is something very essential to head towards perfection. Like we practice conversing, and pronouncing the new words we learn to attain perfection in the language we are learning, applying the same in learning general aspects would help in mastering in whatever knowledge to aim to acquire.

3. Listening  is a key to succeed

As mentioned earlier too Learning a new language requires understanding the sounds, phonetics and pronunciation that are specific to that language. We listen to experts of that language or native speakers and learn to say the words accordingly (be it on google translate or YouTube lessons or a native speaker or even using apps that support language learning). This applies well even for learning in general. Listening to ideas of peers, talks by experts or just giving an empathetic ear to a friend in need gives a way towards a next step towards learning and expertise.

4. Mistakes make you better

Take risks, give it a first try! No learning comes with success in the first attempt! This is another important thing that we can learn when we learn a new language. It takes a lot of chances to converse right sentences with right accent and pronunciation. We make mistakes and listen, practice more and learn. The same would apply to anything else that we are aiming at mastering! Learners should realise the positive impact of mistakes on their learning process and not get disheartened by them.

5. Going Out of Your Comfort Zone

It’s not very easy to learn a language with different accents and pronunciation. There is always an influence of English and our mother tongues. For certain language we might have to unlearn and relearn a few phonetics. The same applies in the process of learning anything that is totally new and challenging! Once we have taken up the challenge of enhancing a new skill or knowledge, we should be ready to stretch a little bit from our comfort zone to attain excellence.

6. Creating Time

In case of learning a new language, we generally dedicate around 30 minuets daily to learn new words/phrases/sentences. In fact, during learning anything, making dedicated time everyday for quality learning is very important. All of us have busy schedule but when we have made up our minds to learn something, it’s necessary for us to set priorities and find time on a regular basis for learning with determination and motivation.

7. Having Fun / Experimenting

When learning something new, it could get a bit stressful, to get that accent, pronunciation etc. making it fun is a beautiful experience learning the language like listening to audios and experimenting to pronounce that way and laugh at your pronunciation and practice more and learn in a fun way!

Isn’t it the best way to learn even your theories and other technical concepts or even other day to day activities?

8. Develop self-determination

Being determined and setting goals for ourselves is another aspect we learn while seriously learning a new language. We could show determination by dedicating fixed time every day do learn a set of words and phrases aim to deliver a basic conversation in the language. Along with the fun a little bit of seriousness could help in learning faster and more effectively in any learning situation.

These are a some aspects that I felt I (and other learner’s) could learn from learning a new languages. There could be many more aspects that people grasp and learn along with learning a language. If you have any more aspects to add to the list please to comment on the article. Any other feedback is also welcome and accepted 🙂